I also would have to be one of those "lonely" pilots. However, before I load the game I jump stariaght into the English channel on the TAW TS server (Again, I only speak english)
If I happen to be the only one in the channel then I will ask in team chat where help is needed, but that is hard to type and fly, especially in the 'hot zone'.
I will admit that I'm a better mud mover than a fighter jock, but I'll always try my best at being tactically aware of what is going on around me.
Maybe if the TAW TS server was used by those who are in squads and willing to invite guests to be able to talk rather than in-game text chat then things might go a bit smoother.
I'm willing to fly with anyone who will give a "lonely" pilot a wing...
That's my two-bobs-worth.